“The capacity to become depressed, to have a reactive depression, to mourn loss, is something that is not inborn nor is it an illness; it comes as an achievement of healthy emotional growth … the fact is that life itself is difﬁcult … probably the greatest suffering in the human world is the suffering of normal or healthy or mature persons … this is not generally recognized.” Donald Winnicott
And then I realized one thing: the woman is the reflection of her man.
If you love her to the point of madness, she will become it.”
It happens to us all at some point. We can be happily coasting through life, when one day we wake up and we question who we actually are, or what we are doing with our lifes, or whether our life has a purpose etc….you get what I mean…
It can be difficult to work it out and you feel stressed or anxious. All the hustle and bustle of everyday life can grind you down and you feel like you want to shout “STOP!!!! I wanna get off this merry go round!”
I have found that getting out in nature, whether it is a walk in the woods or a trip to the seaside to listen to the waves and walk barefoot in the sand. A walk on the hills or moors or a paddle in the local river. All of these things help to reconnect you, it instantly makes you feel better, it takes away my worries, my anxiety and my stress.
If you feel frazzled by life do not despair, there is always an answer. It may take some time to come to you, but in the meantime be kind to yourself and take time out to gather your energies and recharge your batteries.
I read an article this morning and as anxiety is something I do suffer from, especially when the going gets tough, I decided to share with you some symptoms which will help you to identify if you are stressed, and hopefully you can then take steps to chill the hell out 😉
- General fatigue
- Dry mouth
- Nervous coughing
- Sudden tears for no reason
- Unable to control crying outbursts
- Over reaction
- Binge drinking
- Talking too much
- Chain smoking
- Fiddling with your hair
- Pulling out your hair
- Sudden sweating
- Upset stomach
- Sudden anger with little or no reason
- Sudden heart pounding or palpitations
- Muscle aches
- Constant feeling that this is no enough time
- Tic/twitching eyebrows or mouth
- Difficulty breathing
- Nervous coughing
- Drumming your fingers
- Tapping your foot
- Clenched jaw
- Turning red faced
- Feeling of expecting bad news or something bad is going to happen
- Sudden inability to express yourself
- Nail biting
- Constant picking fingernails or face
- Trying to do two or three things at once
It is advisable to keep a stress diary, record your feelings on a daily basis. This is a good way to track your feeling and emotions and remember exactly how you felt. If you are anything like me, it is likely you will feel different on almost a daily basis. If you can recognize you are stressed this is the first step in being able to control it.
If you are stressed or suffering from anxiety, there are many ways in which you can have treatment, and not just with medication. I am personally a fan of complementary medicine such as:
- Aromatherapy, applying oils directly to skin or in oil burners (a great supportive treatment)
- Exercise, instant mood lifter. The hardest part can be getting yourself to do the exercise. Whether you choose to go to the gym or out for a big hike, play football, cycle or golf, as you finish the exercise you feel immediately better about yourself. Keep trying until you find something you enjoy.
Personally, I have found one of the best ways to help with stress is practicing yoga. Many people believe yoga is a type of religion, but this is not true. You practice controlled movement and stresses with breathing which I have found to be very effective.
Do not forget, if you are feeling stressed or anxious, to visit your doctor, who will be able to offer you advice and point you in the right direction for help. It may be that there has been some life event that has initiated the symptoms and counselling may be helpful.
I really try to remember that we are only here once, we need to live our lives as much as we can. I find it helpful to keep a gratitude diary, so that I remind myself to be thankful for the small things in life. This keeps things in perspective for me and stops me from slipping into depression. What coping mechanisms do you use? We would love to hear them