No one loves a party more than I do. I have not had a weekend off from socialising since February last year. Add all these parties to festivals and club nights as well as the obligatory wedding celebrations and birthday meals you could say I have had a pretty full on year. In all honesty though this is how I like it! I am lucky that I have such a wide circle of friends. For this reason it is very rare that nothing is going on and sometimes I often struggle to fit everything in. However, It has not always been this way.
Following my divorce I was often left sat in on my own with nothing to do. Majority of my other friends were all either happily married or in relationships, off doing ‘couple-y’ things. It was difficult, especially when all I wanted to do was go out, socialise and forget the misery I was currently enduring. So I had to take things into my own hands! Luckily for me, I do not find socialising difficult so I used to sit in on a Saturday night with a bottle of wine and once I had finished that I used to head into town on my own and see who was out that I knew. I often would make up some story that I had been out with friends and I could not find them. As it was often late, around 12am, most people were drunk enough to not really think much about whether my story was actually legit or not! So more often than not I would be able to have a full night out with my new ‘friends’. I have met so many people in this way. You should not be afraid to meet people in this way. At first I felt that I was being an inconvenience but what I actually realised was I did not have enough confidence in the human race. When our guards are down and we are out having fun most of us are actually very nice people!
The past year has been amazing, I have attended two hen weekends, two weddings, an awesome festival, numerous club nights, lots of birthdays and other celebrations, a holiday with friends abroad and a holiday with the children. I have not had a free weekend since last February.
This Christmas has been a double edged sword. I have had a lovely time and spent time with family and friends but Christmas day for me is always difficult. Trying to keep everyone happy when you have to also accommodate the ex, when he is particularly difficult sometimes, is the hard thing. You cannot help it, but it affects the day, especially when you cannot wake up on Christmas day with your babies watching their excited faces opening their presents. It also highlights to me the people who are no longer here….in particular my grandma, whom I was very close to and miss every day. In any event though it is truly the party season with lots of parties and drinking. This was topped off with the best New Years Eve ever which did not end until New Years Day.
For this reason, it is time for me to take a little time to take stock of all that has happened over the last year. I have grown so much as a person. I have pushed boundaries and at the age of 33 actually feel like I am finding who I am, and I make no apologies for who I am either. I am so grateful for my life and the people in it, old and new. For the next few weeks I am going to be nice to myself, take time out of the party scene, detox, take walks and spend time in nature. Eat lovely food and watch films and read books. I have loved every minute and I will miss this party lifestyle over the next few weeks but I need to recuperate and recover, I want to be fighting fit for the upcoming festival and party season and I know come the last Saturday of January is the day that it will all start again.
I am so excited for what 2014 has to offer me, and at the time though I thought my divorce was a terrible thing, it was in fact the opposite as I have been allowed the space to grow and I once again feel like myself, the adventurous, courageous and confident female I was before. No matter how difficult life gets, keep going, see it as an adventure, as there is always something great around the corner.