Quite possibly the cutest thing I’ve seen all week!
They stood on the train platform. The train would be arriving any minute, and all they could talk about was anything other than that.
She was using all her energy trying not to cry. They had never been so quiet with each other. She could hear the train approaching, she threw her arms around his neck and whispered in his ear “have a really good time.” That was all she could manage. As she spoke, the tears rolled down her face. All he could do was kiss her over and over for if he spoke, he too would have cried.
She reached into her bag and pulled out an envelope and handed it to him. “don’t open it yet” she said quietly. He smiled, kissed her one last time and stepped on to the train. Suddenly she became aware of everyone else stood on the platform, watching them, as if they were part of a romantic movie.
She pulled her scarf up around her face and walked down the platform to the car, looking back only once. Once was enough to see him looking back at her through the window of the train carriage. She knew she had to let him go, he needed to do this for himself. The thought of not seeing him for the next ten weeks filled her with sadness, but he had to go. She continued back to her car, where she sat, and cried, hard.
“I am going to India” he said.
“India….I’ve been offered a place in India….”
“oh….Erm wow……..con-congratulations” she said as her heart sank.
She loved this guy with all her heart. She so desperately wanted him to stay, but at the same time she wanted him to go. The opportunity was amazing, for him to experience something new. But at the same time, she just could not imagine what it was going to be like without him in her life. From day one there had been an instant connection, even though there should not have been. The timing was off…..majorly. But against all odds, they had made it. And now after everything, she felt he was leaving after everything they had endured it was such a waste.
Her mind was racing with so many questions but the main one kept screaming at her “WHAT WILL HAPPEN TO US?”
He could see the look on her face; the sadness in her eyes. “I will be back, it is not forever.” He said and smiled at her whilst staring into her eyes. Her heart melted. He bent down and gently kissed her on her forehead, as she was sat on the floor. She reached out and wrapped her arms around his legs. She was not ready to let him go, not just yet.
I have tried online dating on and off for two years. Not because I had trouble meeting anyone, but because the people I were meeting were not necessarily what I was looking for. At first I was full of excitement….receiving messages left, right and centre…it gave me something to concentrate on after my separation and I liked the attention, if I am honest with myself. I even met a couple of the guys I had been chatting with online. Well….I met three actually.
One was a lovely guy and we met a couple of times, despite messaging for a while before meeting up, it was still a nerve wrecking experience! But we got on fine, though the distance between us made things difficult. We still send the odd message now and again but there was not a strong enough connection to make either of us feel strongly enough about making a concerted effort to keep things moving in the dating direction. So I guess this one could be classed as a partial success.
The other two dates turned out to be strange….and that is putting it lightly. To be honest….I wish I had never gone. These were the type of people that had put pictures on the site which must have been photoshopped in some way or another….or taking in a light which was more favourable to their feature ;) They both we much shorter than they had stated in their stats, and me being 5 ft 10 myself, find nothing less attractive than a man being shorter than me. I want a man to protect me and look after me, not the other way around! One suffered from a nervous twitch and despite me giving off signals I was not interested still tried to go in for a kiss which I have to say was quite possibly one of the most embarrassing situations I have been in….having to pull a scarf over my face whilst trying to duck out of the way!!! The other just kept talking about getting pissed and how he is usually at home by 10pm. WOW! I thought….I am a night owl. When I go out with friends….I am lucky to be in by 3am ;) He had a nervous stutter which made it difficult to understand what he was saying most of the time and I did not find him stimulating in any ways shape or form…so much so I made my excuses and left after half an hour later!
The problem I have found with online dating is this…..in order to fancy someone you need the whole package. When you first see someone…you decide within seconds whether or not you are attracted to them. Its just nature, that is just the way it is. You dont just look at their face, you take in the whole of them….their height, their body frame, their face and other features, and more importantly their stance…the way they show how confident they are…or not! If you manage to muster up enough confidence to approach them and speak to them, then you listen to their voice. This is important, you need to find their voice attractive, light it flows through your body as they speak. You can feel the persons energy (some may call it an aura). There is no way you can do this through a computer/laptop/tablet/phone. It is like when on occasion you meet someone and you either really like them or do not for whatever reason, you just cant put your finger on it.
It does not matter how many photographs they put on the site, they are not a true representation in most cases. They are always the best of the best and they are not 3d, you cannot get a true representation from a flat photograph!
Maybe it is just the case that I am too much of a ‘feeler’ I am an ENFP (Myers Briggs Test) but I think intuition is a great thing to go by. If your body is telling you something listen to it, because it is usually right…in my experience anyway.
My advice would be to get out there, look at people, feel their energy, watch their gestures and movements. This tells you a lot about a person, more so than what they are selectively telling you at the other end of the internet.
I’m sure there are successful relationships which have arisen from online dating but on the whole, it is not for most people. They are probably the lucky small percentage who just fell lucky. I on the whole found internet dating rather soul destroying on one level…thinking christ is this what I am attracting. Another point about internet dating sites is…it is a complete minefield. It really is a place for lots of strange folk to hang out…..
My final point is this….the time I saved checking my account and speaking to people that it was never going to go anywhere with….because suddenly they dropped off the face of the Earth or told me they used to be a woman or are looking for someone to become an escort…(yes this happened)…I used the time to focus on things I actually wanted to do. Like going out with friends and having a good time…walking my lovely dog and doing other things I really enjoy…like writing this blog ;)
Good luck with your dating, there will be someone for you just around the corner. I waited two years to find what I was looking for, but I am so glad I waited….so glad I did nt compromise what I was looking for as now I am the happiest I have ever been.